Should Parents Discourage Opposite Gender Tendencies from Their Children?

Should Parents Discourage  Opposite Gender Tendencies from Their Children?

Originally posted on May 26, 2011


There are many families that deal with this issue and it is a real issue that many do not know how to handle. Since I was brought up in the 1970's, I can say that my parents would not have tolerated this if they noticed it. In fact when I was in 6th grade, I became sort of a tom boy. For some girls, they do go through this stage and then they outgrow it after puberty hits. I do remember my mother looking at my class photo and stating she did not like it because I looked like a boy. Well, I didn't notice the change until she mentioned it but we did have a family tragedy not long before so that may have caused my appearance to alter a bit. But my point is, when she told me she did not like it and that she wanted me to take better care of my looks, I was then conscious of it and did what she said.

It only took my mother to tell me once that I was not looking "lady-like" and I worked to get back to looking and acting more like a girl. Now, of course I still had hidden attractions to the same sex later on so the appearance is not the deciding factor of homosexual tendencies but it can't be ruled out.

For other parents, if you see your child, for example- your son appearing to act and maybe even dress feminine, then a talk needs to happen. We as parents should not encourage nor ignore possible homosexual tendencies. Firstly, it is damaging to their self image and will cause other issues down the road in life if not addressed immediately. Secondly, we should not be encouraging opposite gender tendencies either. What I mean by this is: girls need to have the attention of a female role model as in how to dress, act and present herself in public. She should have a mother or female in her life that models a strong feminine image. This would be the same for a boy. He needs a father or male figure in his life that reminds him to be masculine, the provider and strong family image in life and his future family's life.

So with that being said, girls should not be roughing it up much with all boys and boys should not be playing with girls' toys or present around all females most of the time. This creates a distortion in their identity and this is one way gender roles are confused and insecurities can develop.

The kind of talk a parent should have with their child if they suspect or witness opposite gender tendencies would be a calm and concerned conversation. One that does not alarm or frighten the child but a one-on-one talk that lets the child know that you are concerned about some things. As Christians, we should do this in the most loving way possible. If the child feels they are being down graded by the parent or humiliated with faith threats, many children with opposite gender tendencies will rebel and carry out possible homosexual desires.

This may be a phase they are going through. But on the other hand, since our society today is so fixated on the gay lifestyle, children at school are dealing with this everyday and we as parents do not know about it. But rest assure that they know much more than we give them credit. So, always be a step ahead and ask questions and have loving conversations of concern result in resolution and support. Build a close relationship with your child as this subject will affects them later in life if not addressed. As Christians, it is our duty to fulfill the will of God through our children by standing up and addressing what could become unpleasing to God. Remember you are the driving force to raising your kids up in the values and morals God would honor. By being that force, you as the parent can create a generation of confident and God-fearing leaders in our society.

We will return with some specifics on this subject soon that go into actual homosexual tendencies and  lifestyles.

If you are struggling with homosexuality and want a way out, don't believe the negative hype. You CAN be delivered from being gay, God will do it for you as you come to Him with a open and humble heart. Please visit us True Ex-Gay Talk page to request an appointment to speak with T. Marie.

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Mother Declares She Supports Her Children Being Gay [VIDEO]

Mother Declares She Supports Her Children Being Gay [VIDEO]

From AT2W Blog:

The mother on this video is one we would call uneducated and nonspiritual. We would say this because she is announcing on her video that both her daughter and son are homosexual and she is proud of it for them. She allows them to bring their friends over in the lifestyle as well. She states she'd rather them be at the house 'vogue-ing' as she calls it, than for them to be out in the streets doing it. Its like how some parents think if they let their children smoke marijuana, drink or do other drugs at home, is better than them doing it in the streets. (BTW, to vogue is a modeling step or move that many gay men do as imitating supermodels on the runway.)

This mother recognizes that the gay lifestyle is dangerous as she says she knows the men, for instance, carouse around with many other men sexually. She also said that the men get used and abused in the streets and are no good physically but says its still ok with her.

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What Were You Really Looking For in Your Gay Relationships?

What Were You Really Looking For in Your Gay Relationships?

Have you ever asked yourself this question? Did you actually ponder on it and get an answer for yourself? 

Well, I have. I remember being hurt by the last man that was in my life and I knew at that point I was going to stop denying what I felt for women. You see, I had long before had a interest in the same sex from a pre-teen. I never wanted to act on it but it was always in the back of my mind. So when I broke it off with that last boyfriend then, I knew I really just wanted someone to love me.

And love is what I sought out and ultimately thought I would get it from a woman. Well, after meeting a few and having a few relationships, I had to start dealing with the fact that this was not working. Just when thought I found love, the other person was not serious enough, only wanted one thing or wanted what I could give them. I found myself doing and accepting more things than I should have- just in the name of love that I was not getting in the first place.

If you haven't realized it, the gay lifestyle is full of broken, insecure and quite frankly, leeching people. Now I am not saying everyone is that way but I can assure you that some people get into the lifestyle for many reasons and some of them are only looking for what you can do for them. The gay lifestyle appears to be the answer to loneliness and a void you need filled- but really we are fulfilling a physical desire that we don't understand in the first place and then sometimes others are looking to use and abuse the same sex. 

But the point is what were you really looking for and did you receive it? Some say 'no', and that they never received the love they were looking for and others say 'yes' but it ended up one sided. Others say same sex attraction or homosexuality is so destructive that they really did not know what they were doing getting involved in it.

What I say is this: In my experience, the gay lifestyle is a facade. We initially feel it is the answer to these aching desires we can't shake or for many of us we are looking for love. But what happens is we can get connected with people who have not intentions on doing us any good. We find ourselves more broken, hurt and confused then before. 

My experiences were trying to seek real love in the same sex relationships and finding myself compromising and never receiving true love.

This may not be your story but I don't think that people can deny that the gay lifestyle is destructive and a 'take and take more without giving' type of life. 

So whatever you were looking for in the same sex lifestyle, you most likely never received it because there are so many people who are in it that take advantage of one another.

Your only true love is from Jesus Christ. He gave up his life for you on the Cross and who could love us more than that? Stop looking for your true love and realize God has been on your side always.

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It's always a good thing to be able to admit we still struggle with things in our lives. Sometimes I think we come to tackle an issue and just because we confronted it, we are alright now. This is not true. The initial confrontation of our issues is the starting point but we all need more help in keeping our minds on what's important.

We have to realize that our struggles don't just go away from that first meeting or talk with someone. We have to constantly reach out and receive support and seek God for strength. He wants us to connect with others so we can know that others suffer the same things. 

Even though we can leave the initial conversation or meeting inspired and ready to face the world head on, it won't be long before we find ourselves back where we started. That usually means we, at that point, see that we need more help then we thought.

That is where your support system comes in handy and of course making sure to pray and read our bibles daily before we do anything at the start of our day. If we give God that time before we do anything in the morning, you will see your days and weeks going smoother for you because you connected with the Most High first. He wants to be your strength and your shield. But we have to open up and let Him in.

So, don't be afraid to continue to ask for help and guidance firstly from God and then your support system. We all need support. Don't be ashamed because your struggle needs more attention. We all do.

God Bless!

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Remember: By fasting, I have found that our eyes are open; our ears can hear and we comprehend what God wants us to do. Fasting leaves us open to hear and receive God's word more clearly. It also breaks down our dependance on food which forces us to depend on God for physical strength. Basically, if you really want change in your life or want to hear God more clearly, you can accomplish it by fasting.

Our fast is 1 week out of the month. This would actually be a Monday thru Friday (Five days). Now, many people can fast for weeks on end and that is fine. It really is what is comfortable for you especially health wise. So advice you to consult your doctor as to what will be best for you.

I would like to invite anyone who wants to fast along with me on March 5th thru March 9th. We will be fasting with water only and then incorporate a protein shake in the evening around 5pm. You can go the entire 5 days fasting straight through without food if you can do so.

I just wanted to share this and invite anyone to fast, to get a Word from God and clearer understanding of their life.

Please contact me if you will join me in the fast for the week of March 5th thru March 9th. I'd like to be your support during the time of fasting as we help each stay strong.

God bless!

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