Why Is It Difficult for Many Gays and Lesbians To Respect Ex-Homosexuals

Why Is It Difficult for Many Gays and Lesbians To Respect Ex-Homosexuals
 

This is a very interesting article that gives the perspective from ex gay point of view.

Excerpt: "Ex-homosexuals are harassed more than the average homosexual of this age, because the gays and lesbian community is growing into the majority within society.   Many of them are disrespecting ex-homosexuals and trying to dominate their lives and take away their freedom to oppose homosexuality, which is what they have accused straight people of doing to them, for so many years."

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Why Is It Difficult for Many Gays and Lesbians To Respect Ex-Homosexuals

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For Discussion: Are Ex Gays Still On the Gaydar?

For Discussion: Are Ex Gays Still On The Gaydar?

I have had many people ask me this question and I have never addressed it here but I think its time to discuss it. I realize that being a homosexual or a lesbian, people feel there is some kind of sensor that gives off an instant attraction between two people or others that say "I'm gay too". This I believe many gays felt at one time or another. 

 But the issue is once someone is delivered from homosexuality or same sex attraction, are they still on what they call 'gaydar' radar? My answer to the question is simple. I believe that when a person was homosexual they naturally attracted other homosexuals. Even ex gays can still naturally feel or know whose gay. But do they have some branding on them that tells the world they used to be gay? Not necessarily. 

Let me break it down plainly if I may. Once a person has lived as a homosexual, they will know the spirit of homosexuality around them in people. Its all spiritual. Ex gays recognize the gay spirits because they used to live the lifestyle. Ex gays are interested in living for Christ not seeking out for gay dates and some gays appear to be on the prowl.

Now, what really is important here is keeping our minds on God and walking away from those that are 'looking out' for something. Let's face it, the world celebrates homosexuality in many ways and its all around us. If we don't keep our eyes on God and in His word, we can get distracted about who thinks we are gay. And trust me, Satan wants us to feel we have never changed.

So, if you feel like you have some 'gaydar' on you after being delivered, then you need to know that the enemy wants you to feel this way. Though God has delivered you and saved you, the enemy is not done trying to get your soul. 

Just remember that you belong to God now and Satan doesn't have a chance.

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How Coming Out of the Closet, Let's God In

How Coming Out of the Closet, Let's God In

In my past experiences as a lesbian, when I came out of the closet to my family and friends, I thought it was the best thing for me. Well, what I mean is as a young woman with feelings I did not know what to do with, at the time I thought it was best for me to tell what I was feeling than to keep it in and live a double life.

Now, with that being said, coming out also resulted to my breakdown of becoming the woman God wanted me to be. While at the time, I felt getting it all out in the air to those that mattered to me was good, I had opened up a can of worms I did not know would leach onto me for many years.

I do thank God for how he allowed things to happen in my life though. I can't imagine not expressing it to anyone, getting married, having kids and ultimately destroying my life as I may have been on the down low. Yes, even women live on the down low too.

Though I would have rather not lived a life of homosexuality, if I had never revealed it, then how could God have changed me and delivered me? I know He used my sin to eventually turn me around and be a testimony for others. For those that never tell it and live in secret, they never allow God, in His time, to break the sin from them.

Are you living in secret as a lesbian or a homosexual? Have you kept it from everyone or those close to you? 

I know it may seem strange that God can bless someone even in their coming out phase but it is true. Coming out of the closet, unknowingly, allows God to do what He will in your life. For some like myself, it took years to hear God's voice, but thank God I did. 

By my being out and open at one time in the lifestyle, ultimately brought shame, conviction and guilt on my heart that I had never felt before. I felt like Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden- naked, ashamed and running for fig leaves!

My 'coming out' became 'my coming into' God's will. Will you walk into God's will today?

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The Question is: Are You Really Happy Being Gay?

Are You Really Happy Being Gay?

I ask this question because I was there once a upon a time. I know how it feels to first get into the lifestyle after having thoughts of the same sex for years and not knowing where its coming from. I hope the following questions help you as they helped me and many others.

"But are you really happy living your life as a homosexual"

I know that sometimes being in the lifestyle was like the best thing ever. Most people feel like being gay and living it was their destiny and nothing could be greater.

"But is it really so wonderful?"

Sure, there are moments of what we feel is love, compassion and respect for and from the same sex. Maybe someone never really received the love they needed from a mother or father and finding it in the same sex, is what seems to fill the void.

"But does it really fill the void?"

I'm not sure after maybe sharing intimate moments with a significant other or many others will really make anyone happy when many times its only sex or the attraction that keeps the 'buzz' of excitement going.

"But what do you do when the excitement wears off?"

Well, maybe you move on to another lover and another in the relentless quest to find love but deep down you know it will never come. Why? Well, because what you are attracted to still doesn't seem to fulfill you like you want it to.

"But what about all of the homosexuals and lesbians getting married? Aren't they happy?"

I don't know. Some homosexuals may think they are born that way and again destined to live their life as such. Others are just aimlessly seeking to rid the pain of non-fulfillment in their lives. Others, also, may have experienced other things in life and its coming out as an attraction to the same sex and this is their goal. Their goal is to do what they feel is right but not necessarily what they know is right. So, they perhaps pursue getting married to the same sex even though some know deep down this is a mistake. 

"But why make a lifelong commitment knowing its a mistake?"

Well, for some, they feel its too late to turn back or its too hard to conquer homosexual feelings or no one will accept them if they change now. The big one is that God won't love and take them in.

The truth is: many gays appear happy because they have convinced themselves its what they really want. But deep down these individuals are not happy and only want to prove in many ways they are because to them, there's no turning back.

"But aren't there people out there that really are happy being gay?"

For their own reasons, and any former homosexual will tell you, that they didn't want or see themselves changing - EVER; but God touched them. I do believe that some people have been seduced by the homosexual spirit and think they may never change. Thanks be to God, it doesn't have to be that way.

"But what about those who have same sex attraction but don't want it anymore?"

Now, these individuals realize they are not happy. Also, maybe God is convicting them and they are fighting to get out of the lifestyle. Many of them have experienced the excitement of meeting someone and getting intimate but quickly realize after every encounter, it is just wrong. They know its against God and want to change but find it hard to do so.

If you find yourself asking some of these questions, then maybe you know you want to get out of the lifestyle of homosexuality. I don't confess to know everyone's situation or how everyone gets into homosexuality because everyone is unique. But I do speak on some of the common reasons why people get into the life.

It really doesn't matter how or why except the fact of wanting to pinpoint some unresolved issues in our lives. God knows it all and whatever reason we find ourselves in the gay lifestyle, He can get us out of it, if we really want out. He can give us the strength to fight the feelings for the same sex. If we only be open to hear and receive Him with all of our heart, will we then allow His spirit to move inside of us like never before. You will be surprised how strong you really are if you only allow the impossible to you be worked out by the impossible God. (Matthew 19:26)

I'm telling you. Once you give your life to Christ, and open up your heart, mind and soul to Him, He will do exceedingly, abundantly and more than you can ask, think or expect. (Ephesians 3:20).

You don't have to remain bound to the spirit of homosexuality. There is a way out and my God and your God can do it. Just come to Him and trust Him.

If you are man, woman, or teen struggling with homosexuality, same sex attraction or any other concern, please contact T. Marie for support at the Contact Page.

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Ex Gays are Not In Battle With Gays and Lesbians

Ex Gays are Not In Battle With Gays and Lesbians

I think about how some of us get into little spats or down right drag fights over homosexuality. I have to admit I have felt this way and have probably not been as compassionate as I could have to those who don't agree that being gay is against God's will.

What I had to realize and others should too is this is really not our fight. Its God's battle. We as ex-homosexuals are here to tell of the goodness of God and how He can save us from our sins. Homosexuality is one of those sins. The bible says: "The wages of sin is death". When people who are homosexual or others who defend them don't agree with the scriptures, we need not fight about it. Every person who was once homosexual knows the lifestyle. They know how it all started for them. They know in some ways why it started. Also, many will admit they knew it was wrong to be gay.

In my case, I grew up in Catholic school but I never heard anyone speak on homosexuality. I just knew it was not right in God's eyes. Now, knowing is one thing and doing is another as I eventually did live the lifestyle I professed was wrong as a school age child.

So, when I was homosexual, no one could tell me different about my life. I didn't want to hear it and didn't want to change though I was not completely happy nor was I completely fulfilled. Satan knows how to engage us just enough so we don't change but because he can't fill our spirits completely like God can, we still experience emptiness. I have spoken to many ex homosexuals who state they did not know what to do but stayed in the lifestyle because they knew nothing else or too ashamed to leave.

Ex homosexuals know the pain and agony that homosexuals do not want to admit. We were there. We know it all. The difference in a homosexual and an ex homosexual seems obvious but there's more to it. Homosexuals are content at this time in the lifestyle. They don't see themselves doing anything different and no one can tell them otherwise. Many of them feel they were born this way because the world has pushed this phenomenon. Many will argue tooth and nail that they do not need to change and can love who they want. They don't want to suppress how they feel.

Now, many ex-homosexuals have felt the same things as well. We lived in our sin as well and was comfortable enough to do what we wanted too. But now that ex homosexuals have reached out to God and accepted Him and His love for them, they know the truth. We came to a point in life where we were miserable, confused or suicidal or all of the above. And believe it or not, many homosexuals will get to this point but we all do it in our own time. To become an ex homosexual, one has to be 'sick and tired of being sick and tired'. Ex homosexuals were no longer happy or comfortable with themselves or life and wanted a way out.

God is that way out and you can call for His help right now and He will save you where you are. There's no time to lose. We are not promised tomorrow and we all want to be sure we make it to heaven with Him. Please do not believe the lie that God loves homosexuality. God loves the homosexual but not the sin. He loves every single person on this earth but it is up to us to want to live for Him. And why wouldn't we want to? God is so loving and compassionate. He loves us even when we don't love Him.

So ex-homosexuals are not in a battle with homosexuals. We are passionate about helping those who want out of the lifestyle. That truly is our mission. We love homosexuals just as they are. We were once turned away by family, friends or the church too. We just want them to feel and live in God's goodness because He is so good to us.

God Bless.



If you are struggling with homosexuality and want a way out, don't believe the negative hype. You CAN be delivered from being gay, God will do it for you as you come to Him with a open and humble heart. Please visit us True Ex-Gay Talk page to request an appointment to speak with T. Marie.

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